A person, who
is born with certain respectability, does not expect to meet cunning
I could not
stand to see my friend, who had a well-to-do family in Belgium, prostitute
the soul and déjà vu, it is happening again a generation later.
It is about
cultivating the art of hiding ones feeling. It is called intermittent
reinforcement, where a person does not give a true answer but a vague
one that leaves the substantive matter hanging. This postpones the issue
and the other party has to come back.
The vague response
is bait. Someone says something and you say yes but know something
else. “Look I fooling people all the time and they are swallowing
it.” It is natural reflexes, a reaction, instinct, which some
learn how to avoid but to those comfortable with being a whore there
is no stigma attached.
“I am a
whore but I got a car and a house but what you got? You got your
dignity? You feel so? Who does tell you good morning?
But when they see me park my big car they run and open my door for me.
Because they think I look good.”
scenario, women play that game all the time and men are willing victims.
They make the man go along believing that he is going to get tomorrow.
The ancient Greeks had a saying the small head eats the big head.
It works because women realize that the men that they are dealing with
are foolish. They have always done so. Delilah said to Sampson
that he was not getting any unless he told her from where he got his
It is reinforcing
behaviour and entrapment: the woman will give him to keep him but he
knows that if he does something that she does not like she will not do it. Women figure they have to get by and believe that it
is the only way.
It is cataclysmic
but it is the situation with which those people are more comfortable.
Why bring morals into play? This is truth that they do not want
to face and it makes no sense to complain for they will never have a
conformation with reality.
Now that a
female executive editor and a female publisher have taken over The Nation
newspaper these women think they have to behave like that. The newspaper
is publishing highly insulting articles with no value or merit just
to keep the public on its toes. This kind of journalism is irresponsible,
a very feminine ploy and sees the public as a lot of clients.
The motivation is self-satisfaction. How am I going to pay my mortgage
if people do not buy my newspaper?
public is being exposed to the bait and trap psychology. Poke
the reader for a reaction. B. S. Skinner an American psychologist
has a whole theory on this kind of reinforcement. Theirs is a lack of
morals that is why so many injustices exist and prevail but it is too
much hard work trying to convince them.
Days gone by
people like O.S. Coppin and Joe Broome had their vices but theirs were
the natural ones: drink your rum and get a little bit on the side.
Now there is not even a press club like years ago, where the fellows
would pull up one another.
things that these females have seen at the Nation over the years. To
work in grime for years when the top is achieved there will be no integrity.
It is impossible to work with integrity when the journey to the top
did not include veracity. Those honest enough to admit drown in
contemptible self-pity, and a phony self-esteem feed by ambitions for
a few more thousand dollars.
One such article
is that half of sex workers are Guyanese. The female executive
editor is Guyanese and no decent and sensible editor would allow such
a small sampling that is manifestly wrong and very faulty data gathering
in the public domain. Those statistics should be cast aside.
the words are polished up. There is a commodity someone
wants it and is prepared to pay for it. It may be couched but
then again they may not have a business card. The society has
never been open about sex and as long as it is not we will never know,
who is doing what to whom.
There are two
categories, two side to whoring. The Nation used the one but the
other side is not looked at:-
There are a
hundred and one pressures to influence a woman to have sex and when
the right device is used at the right time too many women hand up.
There is a woman with needs or wants and to obtain them for sexual services
some, even the woman, consider it as fair exchange and no robbery.
This attitude is spread through the society. A woman needs a favour
and help and a man steps in. The behaviour is no mystery so many
women have done so for thousands of years since the time of ancient
who does not believe in work at all will find a man to provide for her.
She will get him to work and if she has a job it is only as a stand-by.
Since it comes naturally for a man to provide it takes him years to
work out that the woman with whom he is exploits him. He waits
until he meets another woman for whom to provide and to exploit him
and then he will see that the woman with whom he is currently exploits
him more than the new one.
should be a nurturing one for a large and sufficient number of females
are in high places:- the publisher and editor of the Nation are women,
the governor of the Central Bank, judges, leading journalists, government
ministers, the leader of the opposition, head of the stock exchange,
prominent lawyers, magistrates, judges, managers, permanent
secretaries, civil servants, accountants, all kinds yet it is not and
these women seem to have very little influence outside the boudoir.
At the university
of the West Indies, Mona Campus, it used to be called the Politics of
the Pooh. In Carla Freeman from the Emory Center for
Myth and Ritual in American Life in her Working Paper No.40 April
2005, she calls it Neo-Liberalism, Respectability, and the
Romance of Flexibility in Barbados. That wants translating.
English word, the term means a story in a sense a depiction like to
write a novel. It cannot be to do with love and courtship.
It has not been used nowadays. The 16th and 17th
Century magazines were described as that; they were not described as
novels – she explains it as “romance: is used to describe any number
of idealized representations or popular tropes (figurative used of
the word) in relation to Caribbean society.
numbers of Barbadians today, the pursuit of middle
class respectability and the desire for new paths of creative self-invention
and economic “success” are being sought through entrepreneurship.
.. The romance of flexibility, then, is stimulatingly about sex, love,
kinship/household formation….In each of these senses, the role of
flexibilities at the heart of the entrepreneurial romance I wish to
she uses to demonstrate this flexible romance of entrapment is Sheila,
a 25-year-old owner of Platinum Services, a small company Sheila started
is an attractive and vivacious Afro-Barbadian woman.
… She admits that she uses her good looks and flirting acumen to her
advantage. Saying, “you know… it got me through the door and
they’d be like well you know, lets discuss this,
let's, you know, have dinner and alright I’ll have dinner and they’ll
sign the contract and they wouldn’t see me again...
gained success in her business, and many of the material markers of
respectably (her own home, a nanny, a nice car, cell phone etc. ..)
she sought in her marriage an unfulfilled partnership whose demise led
her instead to opt for a less respectable but more flexible
“friending” relationship with an older well-established man, who
can help her with her business, and who asks little of her time in return.
In so doing, however, she is in the process, along with others like
her, of re-charting the very definition of respectability and reputation
and the nature of their dialectical engagement. The very act that
this entrepreneurial path is being sought over and above other more
stable paths … Afro-Barbadian and women in Barbados are increasingly
able to maneuver in ways that were formerly off limits to them.”
Old men with
young women is about reinstatement of youth; what he used to do when
he used to do it. That attitude is seen in sports.
All that tells
me is that Freeman is a snob. There is a rule that says
those, who come before the court must come with clean hands. Sheila
is not the first woman that has exploited her sexuality so why single
her out? Because she is black; so Freeman is only insulting black
women, for white women have done this from the beginning of time.
One white woman married a man, who would became a black premier.
It is a waste
of time to use language to dispute her gooble-goo. The point
is that they are all doing it. The other underlining thing that comes
through is, that Freeman is envious of Sheila’s privilege.
For this writer
whoring has nothing to do with sex it is as George Bernard Shaw said
and I paraphrase:
The base woman,
and I say whore, is one that takes more than she gives, the common woman
is one that gives only as she gets and the lady, he writes, “is
one by over-earning her income leaves the world a better place.
It is by these ladies and their sons that the world is saved.”
“He who is
convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
It is very
difficult to stir the human conscious. The public as a jury is not large
enough to form an opinion of guilt probably because they are fed by
the same ambitions and wishful thinking. Unless a vast amount
of people, a majority, are threatened nobody will take action.
There will be danger to the entire island and then it may be too late.
in high place are comfortable and know what they do. And when
the crash comes as it is certain to happen; they have their money stashed
There are some
people with whom one cannot associate. They do not understand:
their behaviour is irrational, cannot be justified and they cannot be
told. They are just a hopeless spot on the society and to try
to help is a waste of time. It is not a matter of giving up on
the human race, but a matter of not enough time.